I was searching for some articles about The commitment phobia, and i found that all the articles wrotte over the net accused the man of “fear of commitment”, some how like if it has a relation about being a male (physicly). In reality, I’d venture to say that most men aren’t fearful to commit Then women, The chances are equal for both gender to be touched by such a phobia...Women get scared because the fear of being controlled, being hurt, being scared of divorce process and many other fairs, For me : a man is scared to never find love again after a break up, scared of the depression that can bring a separation...and so on, and we both have a commun fair, the one that we always tried to escape during our whole life, Responsibility...its not that we dont know whats coming, of course not, we have a clear sight of what coming above, we have a totall knowledge of what changes will bring the new stage therefor our fears start generating a doubt about the person we are in love with, doubting about the comitment and The after comitent, fears that give birth to many doubts that will be reformulated as question marks and sometimes some previews of the bad situations that we always pretended that we are making our self safe by not being engaged, reason is that real love doesnt exist, love isnt eternal people change by time...But what we dont want to addmit is that we really and already are engaged when we just fall in love, ...I can honestly say I wasn’t afraid to ask my girlfriend to make it afficial. Me who always had fairs of being engaged for only one thing, is not being able to provide my familly needs, but i asked her to marry me i wasnt afraid anymore i did no therapy, i didnt even knew that i had a phobia, in a night and a day i told her that i wanted her to be my wife for the rest of my life till one of us burry the other, i guess i just was sure of my feeeling and was sure of being able to bing hapinness to the house as long as i am breathing We are in love what do we need more then all what this word contain Some ones eperience It was done. I turned my best friend into my girlfriend. Life was great. We were a boyfriend and a girlfriend who laughed, loved, and genuinely enjoyed one another’s company every minute we were together. While we didn’t have a bicycle built for two, it sure felt like we should have one. After that hurdle, it was smooth sailing. Upon the horizon though, in the back of my head I knew this ship would be smacked with the decision to turn my girlfriend into my fiancé, then my wife. Why is marriage so scary? Being scared of marriage cant really be listed, because there is a various scary things, depending on cultures believes future plans personality sociality effect and much other things that we can talk about not explain at once But the commun scary thing is being scared of changes that will bring the new life: Being scared to be rulled and controlled Being scared to be convicted...not being free anymore What really scare most of us in the marriage is simplly its obligations and responsabilities... and the pretended Man women submission... How to surmonte commitment fair it also depand on the person his/her personality, situation...its not that bad it can be cured easily, but if some how we dont care about...Things will get wose...personality will be affected, and its also effect our social life with familly friend lovers, break away with the major society